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How I became a self taught dad

My dad left us when I was around 6 years old. I remember waking up one morning and finding a note taped to the inside of our front door, it was from him. I don’t recall what was written, just that I gave it to my mom to read. I wasn’t sad or upset that he had left. There was never a close connection between us and to be honest I don’t think I can conjure up even one positive memory about him. His exiting our life was probably for the best in my opinion. Not having a dad was hard, but having a malicious dad would have been far worse. My mom worked very hard to pick up the slack by herself. She pulled 8 hours in an office every day and attended college classes at night. She continually strove to better our lives. Though financially we must have been very tight for a long time, I can’t recall ever feeling poor. She sacrificed a lot to make sure I had what I needed (and more).

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How Michael Buble and Nick Jonas sum up my feelings about Baby O

My wife and I really enjoy the TV series “Smash” on NBC. It is basically about the Broadway theater and how musicals get into production. During one episode Nick Jonas guest stars and sings Michael Buble’s song “Haven’t met you yet”. I recently purchased it on iTunes and as I was listening I realized some of the lyrics really resonated with me and kind of explained how I feel about our daughter.

This part kind of reminds me of when Roo and I were trying to decide if now was the right time to start a family. And then also of the process of trying to get pregnant.

“I might have to wait, I’ll never give up
I guess it’s half timing and the other half’s luck
Wherever you are, whenever it’s right
You’ll come outta nowhere and into my life”

These two snippets definitely speak to the impact I feel like she will have on my life. Both her love and the simple yet huge fact of becoming a father to her will change me for the better.

“And I know that we can be so amazing
And baby your love is gonna change me/

And I know that we can be so amazing
And being in your life is gonna change me”

Finally, this last section of the song always makes me smile. Because no matter what happens and how much work you have to put in everything will always work out. And of course the “I just haven’t met you yet” part is so true. I can’t wait to meet you and sing this song to you little girl.

“Oh you know it’ll all turn out
And you’ll make me work so we can work to work it out
And promise you kid to give so much more than I get yeah
I just haven’t met you yet”

Here’s a video clip of Nick Jonas singing “Haven’t met you yet” by Michael Buble for your listening pleasure. 🙂

Me: On waiting to be a dad

When I was around 9 or 10 I remember laying in bed at night unable to sleep and praying for a family of my own. I was very specific too. I prayed for a wife that would love and support me. She would also have to love animals, especially cats and dogs! I asked for kids that I could hold and protect and would look to me for guidance. And as always when I would fervently wish this with every fiber of my being I could almost feel the love that would surround this home and it was so warm and powerful that even in my imagination I hardly believed that it could be real. That was 15 long (and short) years ago. At some point I stopped praying for that life and I don’t remember why. A lot of good and bad has happened in the intervening years, but God never forgot the prayers of one small lonely boy… He was just waiting for the right time to answer them. Continue reading

Welcome!

Thanks for dropping by my blog! If you were searching for a blog about fatherhood then you’re in the right place. I hope this blog will serve as an informative, entertaining, and meaningful place for men who are soon to be or already are fathers (And perhaps for the women that love them too).

My wife and I are just beginning to embark on the journey of starting a family and I’d love to share it with you. I’m really excited to be a new dad! I’ve got great plans for this little corner of the internet I am going to call my own. My wish is that one day when our children are grown I’ll be able to look back and laugh at some of the “big worries”, shake my head at some of the mistakes, and maybe get a little misty eyed at the precious milestones that passed all too quickly. So, ready or not…here we go!